Happy Father’s Day

Today is the first Father’s Day since my Dad died. This thought occurred to me as I went to bed last night and I wondered how I’d feel on waking up this morning. Truth is, I feel good. Being a Dad rocks, and if proof were needed, I have a rocking card made for me by Keira (and there’s a rumour that we’re off to see Avengers Assemble later). And I have a bunch of great memories of my Dad too, thanks Dad.

If you’re a Dad, I hope you get a great Happy Father’s Day card too.

If your Dad’s still with you –  I hope you have the opportunity to thank him today.

If your Dad’s no longer with you, I hope you have the opportunity to be thankful today.

Happy Father’s Day.

Olympian

This blog post is the distillation of a talk about performance and teamwork given by Steve Williams at the Institute of Internal Communication’s annual conference last week. Steve is a double Olympic gold winner, and he focused much more on his Athens 2004 experience than Beijing 2008, although both were nail-biting close finishes! I’ve kept my hastily scribbled notes largely unedited in the hope of conveying some sense of how the talk felt. I think there are some powerful points made in this talk, I hope you find it useful and enjoyable.

Steve Williams

Olympic rower, has since climbed Everest (childhood ambition), and skied to North Pole.

I carried oars at Sydney, the spare man. My best friend won gold, hugging crying afterwards, and jealous. I wanted it too, face up to questions like ‘what is the shortfall in me?’ humbling and powerful.

Before the start of the race there are six minutes of waiting, terrifying. And it should be. So don’t focus on stakes being a mile high, the prize is. 3 things. Race plan, bullet proof confidence, and get the first stroke right.

6 hours training every day, mum and dad invaluable as my taxi service. If you think Talent alone is gonna get you there, you are a dreamer. Hard work. Being in a team is very motivating, you don’t want to let the team down. Blind trust and understanding, this means we can be apart and doing our training and we just know we’re all doing it – for the good of the team. Don’t always have to be together to know we’re all pulling for each other.

After training, immediately after, you review and if you think you know a way to make the boat go faster it is your duty to speak up and if it’s aimed at you, you take it with good grace. Only as good as next race, row with confidence, and a bit of humility.

Athens 2004

In the run up to Athens, one of the team punctured a lung, we needed a replacement. Ed came from reserves. Not the best physiologically, best for the job. Cool under pressure. As a team we could settle for silver but let’s see that as worse than nothing. 5 sec down on the favourites with 5 weeks to go. Chip away, chip away.

When you arrive at the Olympics your kit contains stuff like different coloured t shirts. Red, white and blue days. We all wear the same colour on the same day so those of us not in the Olympic village know, we’re separate and together.

At Athens we won semi final, coach says you row like that in final we will lose. Hurt my pride and I trusted him. Made changes. Finals day, 6am little warm up. Tension, feel the noise as races go on. Ed buried in a book, James pacing, me and Matthew yawning, can’t sleep though, biorhythm gets screwed. Get the kit out, feel proud. Want to look back and feel good. Blind trust that what we do individually is in our best interests together. You don’t win on the day, it’s done in the four years beforehand. Tears before the race. Done the plan, the science bit, and feel some emotion.

James suggests, No one ever dies from rowing, teams staircase the finish, ten strokes, ten strokes, ten strokes. More and more power, leaving nothing in the tank. Let’s call our staircase with forty to go, and just do an extra set at even more power. We won by a few inches. Chip away, chip away.

Post talk Q&A

Q how much credit for the coach? Everyone matters. Importantly, coach always made a point of congratulating a good performance in the moment and in front of everyone.

Q How have you felt the transition post Olympics. Tough, miss being part of a team. I love the Seasons of performance, can’t just burn and burn and burn.

Q How do you manage the differences in a team? friction in the team v important because we don’t have just one idea. You have a duty to say what you think. Silent (dis)agreement nodded in meetings not good. The best teams are made through their differences.

Acknowledge

Laurie Ruettimann
Laurie Ruettimann

Good ideas are all around us. We miss most of them, and a few stick. 2012 is transformational for me because I spotted an idea in 2011 and I acted on it.  The idea was a reminder, a reminder of the importance of practice. It came from Laurie Ruettimann (pictured above) in a blog post she wrote called Public Speaking Tips. You can read the whole piece here, and the part that really struck home for me was:

I practice like crazy. Other speakers advise me not to over-prepare and I tell them, “Mind your own business.” Malcolm Gladwell tells us that we need 10,000 of practice before we become rockstars. Maybe you don’t have to practice because you’re awesome. That’s great. Good for you. But we don’t let our children get behind the wheel of a car without extensive practice. Why would I stand before a group of busy, smart, talented people without extensive preparation? My audience deserves a strongly executed performance. I want to deliver. You should, too.

Laurie’s post was written on September 21st 2011 and just a couple of weeks beforehand I had accepted an invitation to speak at the CIPD Social Media in HR conference in December 2011. I musta read Laurie’s post about a hundred times, over and over and over. And then I applied that same level of interest and practice to the talk I was going to give. I built the talk, I destroyed the talk, I rebuilt it. I bashed it crashed it, mashed it, bashed it. Practice, practice, practice. Hell I even practiced leaving a couple of pieces to free flow, because you never know how your audience is going to react and if you’ve tied down the whole thing then you’ve kinda got nowhere to go.

The day came. I was nervous. I’m always nervous, and I always tell folks this. See, I did it again just there. After lunch I stood up and did my thing. I nailed it, and others felt I nailed it too. People like Neil Morrison, Alison Chisnell and Natasha Stallard. People I respect because I know they are authentic. And if they think I’m doing a good job, well that will do for me.

Wind the clock forward to today and I am humbled and excited by the speaking opportunities and possibilities that are presenting themselves since the day I nailed it. You can see some of them, including my September trip to Ohio (pinch myself) emerging here. And I’m currently doing exciting work with some great people at Careergro, helping them bring their product to market here in the UK. Last December, one of the Directors of Careergro was in the audience at the conference and heard the talk I gave. How cool is that!

So what?

First I want to thank the CIPD for inviting me and in particular I want to acknowledge Laurie’s part in my recent success. Not only did she write a fabulous, timely blog post, but she has also reached out to me a few times since and given generous support. Thank you Laurie, and if ever I can do something for you, just ask and I’ll do it (so long as it doesn’t involve looking after Scrubby. I’m not big on cats – sorry).

Second, if I can spot these things and act on them, so can you. I encourage you to think for a few minutes. An idea will have caught your eye recently. Have you grabbed it? Are you acting on it?

Third. When you act on it and achieve what you wanted, please don’t forget to acknowledge the person who gave you the idea. Always remember, what goes around, comes around.