If you hold an egg just so, it’s amazing how much pressure you can exert on it, before it breaks. Switch it any other way, and unless you handle with kid gloves, the egg will break.
This egg is my relationship with you, and if you choose, it’s your relationship with others, and with me too. As you get to know me, you will find out how to exert pressure on me, in such a way that I can usefully absorb it for you.
We all need someone to lean on, so please learn how to exert that force purposefully. Thank you.