If you hold an egg just so, it’s amazing how much pressure you can exert on it, before it breaks. Switch it any other way, and unless you handle with kid gloves, the egg will break.
This egg is my relationship with you, and if you choose, it’s your relationship with others, and with me too. As you get to know me, you will find out how to exert pressure on me, in such a way that I can usefully absorb it for you.
We all need someone to lean on, so please learn how to exert that force purposefully. Thank you.
Earlier in the year I was having a conversation with Keira about making friends and getting stuff done. She scribbled down a few of her thoughts and we agreed they’d make a good blog post somewhere down the line. In the midst of everything I’ve been writing about connections, this seemed a perfect time to hand the reins over to Keira again.
Keira has guest blogged a few times before, previously writing about kindness, love and learning, and I’m pleased she is back again, writing about connections. Thanks Keira.
Even if you’re not very happy, smile at someone else to make their day better, which in turn will help you feel better. What goes around comes around.
An office is just a playground for bigger children.
The people who choose to keep a grudge and a frown are just like the bullies don’t let them dampen your spirits.
If you’re trying something new get a friend to help you. Maybe a colleague after all some of your closest friends could be from work.
It can be a scary experience going to a new work. As I said before, work is like a play ground. It wasn’t a problem for me as I’m a bit of a chatterbox. I made a friend as soon as I opened my mouth, but for some it isn’t as easy.
I enjoyed our conversation at the time and transcribing Keira’s notes across to the blog reminded me of the importance of gathering different perspectives. If you are in an office today, maybe you can find a way to make it feel a little more like a playground?
I was at the station heading into London last week when I spotted Richard standing on a distant platform. He spotted me too, we smiled at each other and I tried to say hello across the noise of arriving and departing trains. The verbal signal got lost, Richard couldn’t hear me. Just at that moment, the announcer informed me my train was delayed by five minutes, so I ran up on to the bridge that connects the platforms and across to where Richard was standing. We shook hands and talked briefly before realising that the train Richard was waiting for would work for me too. We boarded the train, enjoyed a fun conversation talking about each others businesses and the minor geek coincidence that we are both going to see Rush at the O2 arena later this month. We swapped contact details and parted company at London Bridge.
So what? Well I think this is probably the longest gap in conversation I’ve experienced so far in my life. I don’t think Richard and I had spoken since we were both in short trousers at primary school together, yet I remembered him immediately, and he, me. I’m pleased we chose to acknowledge and speak rather than ignore and disappear. Long lines.
Tight Circles
I’ve just returned from a fantastic weekend away with good friends Ade, Curly and Simon. We’ve all known each other a long time, 30 years and more, and though we don’t see each other together often, when we do, it’s like no time has passed. Yes we’re older, yes we’re more stupid, and yes we still think we can drink as much as when we first met. As mischievous as these three friends are (because of course I’m not like that at all…), our friendship and trust allows us to lock straight back into a strong bond each and every time we meet.
So what? Well it’s easy to say we all lead busy lives, we’re all ‘sorry that we can’t be there’, We’re all ‘Work comes first I’m sure you’ll understand’, ‘Oh and by the way I must tell you, before I sign off, that I’ve got a meeting next week, with the head of a big corporate. I can’t disclose who but I’m sure you’ll know it and.’ OK OK, I confess I’ve been stealing again – these snippets come from Burning Sky, written by Paul Weller and performed by The Jam on the Setting Sons album. Sure, it’s easy to say these things, and it doesn’t always make it right. Me? I choose – tight circles.
